Offered without explanation, until such time as I have time to write things up properly:
I have decided that, however welcome the experience, if another behaves in an intimate manner with one without having asked or been asked, that there is, to some degree, a violation that at the far end is rape. I don’t know what the near end of that spectrum is called.
Enjoying aspects of a rape does not make it less a rape.
And, no, I was not raped. Calm down, ferchrissakes. Not EVERYTHING in my life is fraught with drama.