I’ve a habit, a coping mechanism, something … when I know there is an interaction coming up that may have stress associated, I will role-play it in my head, trying out different actions I might control against possible (however unlikely) actions the others in the interaction might take. I consider this something like a chess problem. What moves can the other(s) make, and how can I respond to improve my position or achieve certain goals?
This isn’t all cold-blooded. I am a cooperative and socially-conscious, empathetic sort of guy. But I do this thing.
I’ve an upcoming meeting with a particular associate who, I feel confident, is approaching this meeting with hostility and more need to vent and get satisfaction than need to come to some sort of terms to get things done. My role-play of this kept producing bad scenario after bad scenario. Coming to a cooperative and positive solution pretty much requires both parties to want that, and I don’t see that as the case.
Which means, I guess, that I should stop stressing over it and just focus on performing at my best. If I can’t win in any permutation of this game, I guess I’ll have to find solace in having played well and in a gentlemanly fashion.
Not much solace, that.
Crossposted from Epinephrine & Sophistry